At times you may date someone whom you are not compatible with yet you don’t know that you’re a relationship is a mistake. Here are some of the tips to help you to detect if you are in the right relationship and how to fix your problems.
- Common enthusiasm for a future together
It’s everyone’s dream to settle down and form a family but at times you may end up meeting someone who doesn’t want to settle down. If so, then you are at the wrong place because you can’t spend the rest of your life jumping from one relationship to another; you need a family with kids.
- Ability to maintain secrets
A secret told is not a secret any longer. Your partner would greatly appreciate if you protect their secrets from exposure. If your partner keeps quite about your secret, then it’s healthy.
- Sexual compatibility
Your general sexual ideas and interests should be co-linear to each other’s. Disagreements come in especially when one wants a baby and another thinks it’s too early for it. You should consider and understand each other’s sentiments.
- Do you make a good team?
Working alone may just be too difficult, but combining efforts increases the productivity and quality of a piece of work. If you two can work together and understand each other’s idea in the process, then that’s great team work. It may involve cooking together or even cleaning the apartment together.
- Do you better your partner?
In a good relationship, partners inspire, motivate and improve each other’s well being. It’s of mutual benefit you both gain something from each other. Does your partner add value to you? It can be spiritually, emotionally or physically?
- Common financial goals
Poverty and financial crises are the breakers of perfect romantic relationships. They say when poverty strikes happiness flies out through the window. If all your finances are in order, that includes a budget created together, then you are safe.
- Having prolific fights
Fighting doesn’t mean you must come out the hero. You must learn to understand your partner, stumble on the ordinary view, negotiate and respect what your partner says. Fighting and physical abuse are two different things. Learn to solve your problems verbally.
- Maintaining self dignity
In the right relationship, you just find yourself being you and your partner celebrates your being you, simply don’t pretend. If you find yourself always uncomfortable around your partner, then you are in the wrong place. You will see this when you review the Magic of Making Up.
- Do you pursue your personal interests aside from what both of you like?
You may love to read books but your partner doesn’t. The right relationships gives you time to engage in activities that interest you but not your partner. Learn to appreciate and understand your partner’s personal interests.
Solving conflicts in a relationship
Everyone you date has a weakness; every rose has its thorn. Every shining relationship has a test of its own fire. You will not always agree on everything. Love is the glue that makes couples stick together in bad times talked about in The Magic Of Making Up.
- Take a break from each other
A break helps you to meditate on something your partner did wrong. However, breaking doesn’t mean you ignore your partner. It also helps to calm your nerves down, hence prevents you from doing things you might end up regretting later.
- Explain what you feel to your partner
Your partner may realize that you went silent. Explain your silence to them and what you feel and what makes you react like you did. It gives your partner an understanding of what you feel.
- Make inquiries
Ask your partner questions that will explain their actions. Make inquiries that will clear your doubts. Make sure you get answers to your questions.
- Have good listening skills
Learn to listen carefully to your partner. Do not interrupt while they are talking as may be a sign of disrespect that can arouse ill feelings leading to physical fights.
- Hit the nail on the head
Be straight forward; don’t bit around the bush when talking about your problem. Address matters directly. Your partner may not understand your sentiments if you don’t actually say things directly. Don’t bit around the bush.